“At what moment did you realize that you were a wife?”
Becoming a wife is truly a life-altering event. Changing your last name is by far not the only change that occurs upon saying “I do”. We posed this question to some our very favorite married ladies, and the responses that we received made us tear up, roll on the floor laughing and filled our hearts with so much joy. We hope that you enjoy their wifely-marital insight as much as we did. Take a read:
"I realized that I was a wife when I recognized that my choices affect him. When I am making choices to help make him better and be at his best, I feel like I am fulfilling my purpose as a wife."
"We had been together for 6 years/ been best friends for 6 years. On our wedding day I was just so excited to finally be married to my best friend... BUT I was very aware of being a “Mrs.” because everyday I would hear 33 5th graders call me my new name and I could not be more proud to be called that name everyday."
"The moment I knew in my marriage that I was a wife is the first time I had a complete meltdown! I was frantically freaking out over all the cleaning I had to do in our apartment, the prep for dinner for some company we were having over that night, and getting myself together. My husband graciously stepped in and helped and it brought me to tears; I felt so overwhelmed and he was just there for me. I felt in that moment that we were partners; that I truly was his wife and that we were in this together. I was so proud of him and extremely proud to be his wife."
"I realized I was a wife about a week after we got married when my husband's laundry piled up and it sat until I did it! I will totally not complain about cleaning and organizing to my liking though!"
"The moment it really started to hit me that I was married was when I started referring to my "husband" in conversations. I felt so weird to be calling him my "husband." The more I would say it out loud to other people, the more real and natural it felt. As time goes on investing and living together, the more you become one "unit." It feels more and more like your married the closer you feel to each other compared to your other relationships."
"I realized I was a wife shortly after marriage when my husband first introduced me as his wife. I thought "hmm, that has a nice ring to it." I realized I was a wife again shortly after marriage when my husband would ask "hey babe, where's _________. " Such as where a specific shirt was or something else that I had organized and he no longer knew where to find. I am sure most wives can relate that they are the ones to organize and clean. I don't mind it, its one of my wifey duties. Since this first instance, my husband has become more oriented to the new organization of things and provides me with lots of praise for keeping things nice and orderly."
"First, was being on our honeymoon together and waking up every day to the man who is amazing beyond my wildest dreams, and sharing adventures every day with him. Second, another moment was when I was going through a tough season recently, and I noticed that my pain and struggle day after day affected him more than I ever knew was possible. I realized that we really did become one when we became husband and wife. My emotions and how I live, does not affect just me anymore. I realized that I must allow God's Lordship to lead every aspect of my life, and to choose to live in abundance in Christ. My emotions and wellbeing are not my own anymore, and I must not live carelessly, but with divine purpose. Thankfully I now have my husband's strengths to lean in on every day, including resilience, faith, steadfastness, and encouragement. Thirdly, another moment was when my husband would confidently introduce me to others as his wife, with a cheerful smile. I still find joy in those simple moments."
What an honor it is to be given the title of “wife” and how sweet it is to be loved so well. Marriage can be beautiful, silly, and even a little messy sometimes. What a blessing it is that we are not called to do this life alone. We are thankful for stories and moments shared and even more grateful for the women behind these stories.