“You will learn the value of the women in your life now more than ever. You will need them just as much as you will need your new husband because every wife needs a wife”. These are the precious words of Christine Sell, Kathryn’s mother, as she was talking to Kathryn and Ashton about 3 months before each of their weddings. In that moment, Ashton and Kathryn fully grasped how much they would need one another in this time of upcoming transition. Christine was explaining the importance of deep-rooted sisterhood; a wife to call when you burn your first lasagna, or someone to help you and your new hubby move into your first apartment.
Kathryn and Ashton were engaged to the men of their dreams four months apart and then married those men just one month apart. Kathryn and Ashton walked hand in hand through the season of engagement together: planning, bridal showers, family, graduating, moving and settling. So much, all at once is not easy to manage, and that is why every wife needs a wife.
Kathryn says: “It is the only relationship where there is zero expectation. It is an all give and no take friendship. It is the only platonic relationship in your life that you get to choose. I chose Ashton as one of my no-questions-asked, close confidants.”
Friendship for women is unlike any other relationship that exists. Every wife needs a wife to go to Homegoods and pick out a new rug, return duplicate wedding gifts and to clean out their refrigerator.
“Marriage is more transitional than people realize. Marriage is the best decision that you could ever make, but you need that one girl that will fill you back up when you are feeling low” Ashton says.
While interviewing both Kathryn and Ashton, they shared many laughs while reminiscing about friendship and marriage. One story in particular stuck out in both of their minds when they thought about the challenges that come with new marriages. Kathryn had been preparing a beautiful, overflowing fruit bowl for Zak’s upcoming work party, like all good wives are expected to. This was the first event at Zak’s workplace that they would be attending as a married couple, so Kathryn felt extra pressure to fulfill her “wifely duties” and make this fruit bowl superb. Reaching for her brand new, sparkling, serving bowl to present her beautiful fruit dish in, Kathryn dropped the never-before-used bowl on the ground and it shattered to pieces. Kathryn called Ashton crying and upset. Feeling so disappointed and not knowing how she was going to plate the fruit, Ashton comforted Kathryn assuring her that she was MORE than enough. Two hours later, upon meeting up with Austin and Ashton for dinner Kathryn had a new fruit bowl in her hands. Ashton had gone and purchased Kathryn a brand new bowl, making sure that her wifey was prepared for her husband’s important work party.
“God brought us together for so many reasons” Ashton says.
“Living in a new city, away from family, Ashton’s house is one of the few places that I can go to that actually feels like home; wherever the Peters are will always be home.” Kathryn shared.
People are one of the greatest gifts that God blesses us with on earth. When we find other souls to call home that lead us closer to the cross, it is totally invaluable.